Cruel MySpace Hoax Leads to Suicide

By Allie Hough, 17, Staff Writer

Originally Published: Dec 7, 2007

Revised: Jun 19, 2008

On October 16, 2006, 13-year-old Megan Meier committed suicide after being “dissed” by a guy named Josh Evans on MySpace. But Josh Evans didn’t really exist. The mother of Megan’s ex-friend had the profile created, so she could send messages to Megan—claiming to like her, only to ultimately degrade and bully her. Maybe you recently saw Megan’s parents tearing up as they talked about the tragedy on television.

 

I can only imagine how hurtful and humiliating it must have been for Megan to be put down by a guy she thought liked her. It is absolutely horrific that she took her own life, and after learning about her story, I’m clear something has to be done to prevent tragedies like this one.

Avoid Cyberbullying

Nobody wants to be cyberbullied. Follow some of these helpful tips from the National Crime Prevention Council:
  • Never post or share your personal information online or your friends’ personal information.
  • Never share your Internet passwords with anyone, except your parents or guardians.
  • Never meet anyone face-to-face that you only know online, unless you’re accompanied by an adult and meeting in a public place.
  • Talk to your parents or guardians about what you do online.
  • Refuse to pass along cyberbullying messages.
  • Tell friends to stop cyberbullying.

Get Help If You’re Cyberbullied

If you have been cyberbullied, don’t be afraid to seek help. i-SAFE, an Internet safety foundation, recommends that you do the following:
  • Tell a trusted adult about the bullying, and keep telling until the adult takes action.
  • Tell a teacher or school administrator, if it is school related.
  • Don’t erase the messages; they may be needed to take action.
  • If bullied through chat or instant messaging, the “bully” can often be blocked. Block the bully.
  • If you are threatened with harm, inform the local police.

Bashing Each Other Online

When I was in middle school, I remember how catty some of us were. Many of us had just started instant messaging and spending hours on the computer. At the lunch table during the school day, many of us would talk about each other behind one another’s back, but it didn’t end there.

Once we were home, we would continue bashing one another online. Sometimes the conversations would go on for hours. My friends, who were either being bullied or bullying, would send me their conversations with other people. Looking back, I wish I had stopped the bullies and supported those being bullied. Although no one was physically hurt, things could have gotten out of hand.

Easier to Bully Online

Cyberbullying can be as emotionally painful as being bullied in person, and yet, teens find it easier to bully online where there’s some anonymity. “It seems so much easier to talk to someone online. Sometimes you may feel more powerful,” says 15-year-old Brittney, of Union, NJ “You can say what you want without seeing someone’s reaction, or you might not be brave enough to say it in person. I just think people take it way too far.”

The National Crime Prevention Council (NCPC) runs an anti-cyberbullying campaign, which asks, “If you wouldn’t say it in person, why say it online?” According to the NCPC, many who cyberbully pretend they are other people online to spread lies and rumors about victims, post pictures of them without their consent and trick them into revealing personal information.

The NCPC reports that 81 percent of teens believe that cyberbullies bully because they think it’s funny. I believe that many teens try to fit in and make themselves feel good by humiliating other teens.

Megan Meier had a history of depression, which may have left her more vulnerable to a cyberbully. If you are feeling depressed, don’t be afraid to talk to a parent, guardian or trusted adult. Cyberbullying is serious and should not go on ignored.

Let Cyberbullying Stop with You

Although no charges are being brought against the mother who had the fake MySpace profile created to torment Megan, it is absolutely devastating that Megan lost her life over a cruel hoax. It’s important that a tragedy like Megan’s doesn’t happen again. Follow the tips in the sidebar, and make sure you are safe online.

Don’t cyberbully; you have no idea what the person you’re bullying is going through. Don’t stand for your friends’ cyberbullying, and report it to someone if it happens to you or someone you know.

Your Comments

Wow

Posted by: ToxicRainbow on Aug 12th, 2008 1:17am

No matter how many times I hear this story, it still shocks
me. The mother of Megan's ex-friend should be locked up or
something. What kind of a cruel person - a grown woman, for
that matter - bullies a girl less than half her age? People
like that make me sick! It's so sad that that girl died.

NOT COOL

Posted by: dramos09 on Jan 3rd, 2008 7:46pm

Omg...I think that cyberbully is really hurtful to many
people or teens who have low-self-esteem issues. The person
who made up this account on myspace should be punished for
doing such ats. It must not have been inteneded, but still
at fault. I know that myspace can be a good thing and also
a bad thing for those of such age.

RE: bullying

Posted by: DanR on Dec 13th, 2007 8:57am

I am so sorry to hear that you are bullied about your
sexual orientation. It is never OK for anyone to bully
another person and please know you are not alone in dealing
with this - there are people who can help! Check our this
FAQ for some resources:
http://www.sexetc.org/faq/emotional_health/2735 or check out
http://www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org for some LGBTQ
resources. There are lots of people who can try to help.
Hang in there!

bullying

Posted by: RYAN-MOZZ on Dec 11th, 2007 12:03pm

iam bulled all the time because of my sexuallaty( i am gay)
what should i do i feel like killing myself:(

That Story was Shocking to me

Posted by: Daniel_R on Dec 7th, 2007 6:40pm

I have a Myspace account and I follow all of the safety tips
on that website and I'm extremely careful this was a total
shock to me and I can't believe that happened

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